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5 things I've learned the first year of marriage

I could make this a really long post but in the spirit of wanting to keep it short - I’d love to pull focus on just a couple major things that I’ve learned in our first year of marriage. Side note, we looked back at our wedding footage and I made this 30 second recap of our wedding day - so fun!

1) PUT YOURSELF FIRST

How can you bring someone else happiness, until you’ve found your happy place? right? Happiness isn’t an end goal, but its like exercising and needs to be practiced continuously. We have ups and downs, but only you can control how you feel - don’t wait for your spouse to do it. Throughout marriage you’ll learn what triggers happiness and love for both of you too, and when your spouse is right on their intuition if there’s anything they can do - that’s a huge bonus - but should never be what you rely on. Rely on you 1st.

2) THE LOVE LANGUAGES THEORY - IT’S REAL

Coming off the 1st point, I learned how effective it is to figure out your spouse’s love language. Now, to be honest, I think we’re still figuring it out - and to be fair, it can change over time. Maybe a mini side-lesson is that you should never think you’ve got your partner all figured out either hah (and why would you want to because that’d be boring).

3) LOVE IS A DECISION, NOT A FEELING

I once read the words of Joyce Meyer, a very wise and Godly woman, who said: feelings are fickle, they come and go and are fleeting… love is often defined as a feeling but it’s rather a decision on how you want to treat someone. To me, it comes full circle with how: words hold power - words are how we declare our vows - vows are a layout of how you promise to treat someone within your union with them - your union is your decision to love… and that’s powerful.

4) NEW EXPERIENCES TO BOTH OF YOU ARE BONDING:

This is in our travels, the people we meet, and the things we do. Especially for scary or adrenaline filled moments, you’ll feel bonded. You’ll feel like 2 teenagers again! The moment that’s jumping out in my head right now what on our Tulum honeymoon - we zip lined at night, cool raindrops of a storm hitting us midair, finishing through a warming ring of fire before landing in cenote water.

5) DO YOUR ADULTING TOGETHER

Aside from love, feelings, and adventure - we must learn to ADULT together. I think this is so important it should really be #1 because money matters is the #1 cause of divorce these days! Adulting can be a downer, but it’s necessary to see your partnership like a business too. Buying a home, talking about money, deciding when to start a family (if you already both knew you wanted to “eventually”). For us, we wanted to buy and invest in a home along with getting married and it was ALL happening around the same time: we bought a condo in January 2018 and got married & honeymooned November 2017. Read my post on the mindset, budgeting and how we kept our intentions in place for a small wedding. Overall, we bought a starter-home so to stop throwing our money out in rent, and kept each other in the know for how much the wedding was costing. Now, we are on the horizon of purchasing a slightly larger place and renting out our current place. We talk money, business, and strategy often - because it’s ever changing and so important to keep eachother in the know… even down to the, “babe we’ve spent too much eating out this week, next week is going to be all mexican and ramen” haha.


Marriage is life’s biggest adventure! I feel lucky to have someone like Chris to spend it with. It’s fun to look back on this 1st year of being married and we still have so much to learn, discover and create on this journey. We invite you to come hang out with us over on instagram and let us see all your life lessons, and adventures too.

Hopefully you found this helpful! Let’s start a discussion in the comments below if you feel like anything was missing or could be added to this list ❤️


Maui Group Trip! 12 Days in Nature

Our Summer Maui, Hawaii trip was nothing less than breathtaking! From the West Maui mountains to the East Maui waterfalls on the Road to Hana, this place was absolute paradise!  Best part about it all?  Traveling with a bunch of close friends!  We all got amazing $350 roundtrip airfare (only one layover too!)  and split the cost of AirBnBs while taking advantage of their $40 off refer a friend, and it was all with the purpose to go to another friend's wedding at Black Rock beach!

We were there for 12 days, and I've gotta say - I think we experienced the majority of Maui's landscape!  Within the 1st 3 days, we already explored the West Maui North Shore highway and then lapped the entire island by doing the Road to Hana!  Its true, starting from the North part of Road to Hana - you'll find some of the most breathtaking stops once you get to the East side (like the Black Sand Beaches)  and down into the South Side where the Seven Sacred Pools and Pipiwei Forest are!  By the time we got to the South side it was extremely dark out!  We drove within feet of a big black cow on the edge of the road just eating a plant, and didn't see it until passing!  While the Road to Hana is known for its lush waterfalls and greenery, the Southside is like the surface of Mars - rocky terrain, red sand and rocks, and sharp looking peaks of cliffs.  With as much land as we covered, I think we got our workout in and I only had to do my travel-friendly workout routine once hah!

The following are some group photos we took throughout + a couple other shots I liked.  Our travel video is at the end, and I hope it gives you lots of travel inspiration do check off a bucket list trip too with close friends!

Nepalele area along West Maui's north shore - you'll see in our video (below) there was an awesome blowhole that soaked us with water!  It felt amazing from hiking all afternoon, I've gotta say!

Nepalele area along West Maui's north shore - you'll see in our video (below) there was an awesome blowhole that soaked us with water!  It felt amazing from hiking all afternoon, I've gotta say!

Honolua Bay!  That morning the boys got a head start to go look at monster waves coming in here!

Honolua Bay!  That morning the boys got a head start to go look at monster waves coming in here!

One of the 1st waterfalls we saw on Road to Hana.  Check out how small we are to this vast cliff of water!  The crashing of it was so loud, it was hard to chat with the girls without screaming haha!

One of the 1st waterfalls we saw on Road to Hana.  Check out how small we are to this vast cliff of water!  The crashing of it was so loud, it was hard to chat with the girls without screaming haha!

This photo makes this waterfall looks so tiny but I looked up that this was about a 270ft waterfall!  You'll see its height in the video below!

This photo makes this waterfall looks so tiny but I looked up that this was about a 270ft waterfall!  You'll see its height in the video below!

At the 10,000ft elevation summit of Haleakala, this observatory was kinda eerie!  Sorta reminded me of Hawkins from Stranger Things hah!

At the 10,000ft elevation summit of Haleakala, this observatory was kinda eerie!  Sorta reminded me of Hawkins from Stranger Things hah!

A blurry one but I loved the other-worldly Stranger Things vibe of this photo and how it ALSO feels like I'm a just kid again exploring someplace at night!

A blurry one but I loved the other-worldly Stranger Things vibe of this photo and how it ALSO feels like I'm a just kid again exploring someplace at night!

Enjoy the video below!  I know that we'll treasure these home movie memories forever and I hope it spread some travel inspiration for you as well!

If this got you ready to plan a bucket list group trip with your close friends too, comment below + let me know where you think some other group trip locales are!

xoxo,

Rachel